'She still doesn't leave': Neighborhood cat finds family, who feed, shelter, and love her while neglectful owners barely notice she's been gone, but refuse to let her be with her chosen family

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
Jun 6, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Some cats choose their hoomans and this one made her pick clear. She showed up in a quiet backyard, friendly from the first paw-step, purring, making biscuits, and acting like she already lived there. The humans, though pet-less, acted responsibly: they checked for a microchip, asked around, and hoped she had a home.

Turns out, she did. But she clearly wasn't in a rush to return to it. Despite living barely a block away, she stuck to her newfound territory. Through rain, heat, and overnight stays. She greeted her "new" people like family, tried sneaking inside, and even cowered when she heard her real owner's voice.

Now, these humans face a classic cat dilemma: she's not theirs, but she wants to be. To add to the situation, they're worried about her. She's always outside, gets soaked in bad weather, and never seems to visit her actual home. It's clear she's attached. But is it enough to make a change?

This isn't just a cat who visits. This is a cat who's moved in emotionally. And when a feline makes that choice, the line between visitor and family gets awfully fuzzy.

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    'We feel she's adopted us'
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    We desperately need advice on how to handle the situation we now find ourselves in. There are many outdoor cats in our neighborhood. We do not have any pets, but love animals.
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    Now our dilemma: About a month ago one visited our backyard. She is incredibly friendly, immediately rubbing against our legs. I lifted her up within minutes of meeting her, she purrs instantly and starts making biscuits. She hung out with us in the backyard all day that day. We don't see her for a couple weeks after that first meet. We assumed by her behavior and friendliness that she had a home.
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    Then over a week ago she arrives in our backyard, and again stays all day. This repeats for 2 days. Keep in mind we have not fed her anything, just give her snuggles and talk to her. She tries to sneak in our home multiple times.
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    Then she spends the night on a patio cushioned chair. Now, we are very worried. We go buy food and treats and make an appointment for the humane society (which was packed, so 3 days later), in order to see if she is microchipped and spade. We do what the website suggests, we walk around the neighborhood with her (she
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    follows us for treats) to see if she is drawn to a home or if anyone recognizes her. We ask neighbors and even exchange numbers with one on a different block, who tries to help us find out if she has an owner/home. Noone we speak to recognizes her. We now start allowing her in the house, while we are home, on the hot days we had (for no more than an hour at a time). She loves our home, but is afraid of the basement. We've
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    been working in the yard so we're outside with her mostly. When we do leave to do errands/go out, she greets us when we get home. We continue to not let her sleep inside at night, in hopes she'll return to her home. We also have no idea if she is litter box trained (plus we don't have one), and have to keep her from shredding our couch. She loves making her biscuits . She stays all day and night (excluding when she leaves our yard to potentially go potty?),
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    up until the appointment at the humane society. What was alarming, is she stayed when it rained one night. We didn't realize it had rained until morning and made her a little makeshift alcove to stay dry and got her different blankets/towels for "her" chair.
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    By now, we are very attached to her, as we feel she's adopted us, we even start pondering names for her. We hope she isn't microchipped. I buy a soft backpack carrier because she is always glued to us, to make her visit as comfortable as possible. We wear it on our chest. We praise her the whole time and
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    give her reassuring pats. She does well in the carrier after about 10 minutes. Another clue, that it may not be her first time in one.
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    They scan her, she IS microchipped. We're devastated immediately. They contact the owner and ask if she wants her back, because we had expressed interest in adopting her. They say they do, and that this has happened before (her being returned via humane society!?!).
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    She says she is an indoor cat that always manages to get out. So they just let her be an outdoor cat. They give us her number, as we are to arrange how to get the cat back to them. We are completely deflated and head home. We keep reminding ourselves this is someone's cat and of course they want her, she's just the Best.
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    We call the owner, and I ask her some questions because the cats behavior is odd to us. When did they see her last? Is she an outdoor cat? Why didn't they report her missing? What's their address? They live less than a block from us. In fact, we passed by both the front and back of their house during our stroll to find her home/owner. We even
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    spoke with the people who live above her and they had never seen her and suggested she is likely from a different house down the block (which we already knew she wasn't).
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    Since she lives so close, we walk her home. We go to the front of the home, where some people are on the porch, so we ask them if the cat's owner is there. They say they live in the basement unit. They go to get them. As they are walking on the side of the house, the cat hears their voice. I kid you not, she cowers behind my partner. We both
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    noticed this immediately. They say, hey kitty! Not even by the name we now know. The cat walks away down the street, with no acknowledgement of the owners presence.
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    We have a friendly conversation with the owner. They say how she always gets out and loves to explore, doesn't like being inside. They say she escapes when they let their dog out. They also have 2 other indoor cats. They say we'll probably still see her as they can't keep her inside. We feel some relief from this. We tell her we did start feeding her when she started to stay overnight. We said we would stop now that we know she has a home.
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    Ok, apologies for the long winded story, but I feel like much of it is pertinent to why we need advice. She is still around all day, and still stays outside overnight. We did give her the last can of food, because what were we going to do with it? Plus, we felt incredibly guilty for bringing her back there. She stayed away for 4 hours after we dropped her off. It was quite the punishment. We missed her
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    terribly during that time. Since she still doesn't leave we have continued to give her treats, but have spaced them out to try and get her to go home. She does not leave. It even rained the other day, we came home and she was soaked. I dried her off, gave her a treat and gave her a dry spot on our front porch. Now she will stay there sometimes, so we removed it. She's now back in her chair.
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    What do we do? How do we either convince her to go home (where she clearly does not want to be) or convince the owner to give her up? What other options do we have or should we try?
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    RositaZeta Jones To be honest just keep her. You're not stealing someone's cat when she's clearly refusing to go 'home' If she's sleeping outside in the rain to be at your house then she's chosen you as her new home. Just keep her and see how long it takes for the neighbours to
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    notice, maybe then have a conversation about adoption with a vet who can then speak to her current owners. The cat's health is at risk if her food isn't consistent and she's sleeping outside, she obviously doesn't like other cats and dogs so it isn't fair to force her to live there.
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  • If the owners aren’t saying anything, maybe it’s just an unofficial extended stay. Like… a permanent sleepover. She picked her spot, and who are we to argue with the guest of honor?

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    Exact_Insurance Take kitty inside..I doubt her "owners" would even notice. If they ask you if you have seen her deny deny deny
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    euphemisia Honestly, if it were me, I'd bring her inside and never let her out again.
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    Successful-Count... I'm not suggesting you rehome that poor kitty, but. but......... This is a case of CDS if I've ever heard of one!
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  • Maybe the CDS sent her your way so you could keep an eye on her. She clearly trusts you. And who are we to question the mysterious ways of the feline universe?

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    ranchspidey I'm not actually a cat owner, I just have a dog who's always with me, so I'm not an expert here. But this is my advice: let the cat do what she wants. If she wants to hang out with y'all, then that's where she wants to be! The neighbors know who you are now so if they're actually worried about the
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    cat they can ask. But honestly from how you've described it, they don't seem that worried or stressed. I'd say let the cat wander where she wants, if that's with you in your home, it's a safe warm place so I don't see the harm.
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  • If they come looking, they come looking, but until then, she’s chosen her spot. Might as well give her the shelter, snacks, and snuggles she’s clearly been searching for. 

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    Engineeredvoid I realize this is someone's animal and most legal systems view animals as property but I really don't feel like pets are property. Cats choose a person not the other way around.
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